Opposites Attract

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I like Britney, he likes Gaga.

I like movies, he likes video games.

I like walking, he likes running.

These are just a few examples of the everyday battles we face because of our completely opposite tastes! At times it can be quite frustrating, especially when I want to watch a film and he looks like he’d rather rub his face on a cheese grater. But in the long run, I think it’s good that we are so different. He may think I am stubborn and set in my ways (which I am), but the truth is I really value his opinion, and it often challenges me to re-evaluate my stand on things, even if it doesn’t always come across.

And I like to think that the same goes for him. I’ve seen a big difference in him since we’ve been together. for example, I’m a neat freak and hate a messy house, whereas he used to have a very ‘relaxed’ approach to housekeeping. But nowadays he probably does more housework than me. He’s always washing dishes and clothes! And I’ve also developed a more lenient approach to what I consider messy.

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I remember an episode of Modern Family that was about whether people can change or not. When asked how much people could change, Mitchell replied “People are who they are, give or take 15 percent. That’s how much people can change if they really want to. Whether it is for themselves or for the people they love.” This always stuck with me. 15%. Is it a lot? Is it not enough? Is it realistic? I don’t know what your opinion is on the subject, but for me, I came to the conclusion that I would be happy to be 15% adaptable. It’s a good percentage to aim for! It’s high enough to see a difference, but not so much that you lose yourself in the process. And for the one I love, I will more than willingly try to get up to that 15% in order to make him happy, because I know he is willing to do the same for me. Sometimes I may fall short, but I really try. 

And this mentality has worked out well for us when it comes to the tricky parts. But it’s funny because even though we have our differences, in other ways we are so in-sync. We have the same dark sense of humour. We often finish each others sentences. We have the same fashion sense and are always stealing each others clothes. And I can almost always tell what he’s thinking and he knows me really well too. These natural similarities are the reason we were so attracted to one another in the first place, and the differences only help to make these connections that much more special.

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We may still argue about what takeout to get, and we are always on opposite sides during a celebrity argument, but in the end it doesn’t really matter. I love him because he is so different to me. It keeps me on my toes. And making up after a heated argument can be quite thrilling too!

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Time for a facelift!

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To mark my return to the blogosphere earlier this month, I thought it would be nice to give Pink Suburbia a new look! Trim the hedges, hose down the drive and take down the Christmas lights so the neighbors stop complaining!

I’ve gone for a cleaner, simpler look and I’m really happy with the results… It’s so shiny and white (with a hint of pink!). To make it easier to find what you’re looking for I’ve added some new options to the menu bar – Now #ManCrushMonday has it’s own tab! (for all the boys and girls who like to get hot and bothered on a Monday!)

I’m very optimistic that this marks the start of a new era of my blog, and I’m looking forward to sharing some more of my internet ramblings with whoever is out there to read!

Hope you guys like it! 🙂

#ManCrushMonday: Henry Cavill

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To mark the return of Man Crush Monday, I’ve picked a SUPER man to save the day!

As I’ve mentioned before, Superman is my absolute favourite superhero! I love all his incarnations, although I am especially fond of Tom Welling’s Smallville Clark Kent. And just like the rest of the world, I am eagerly anticipating the latest installment of the Man of Steel franchise, Batman V Superman: Dawn of Justice. 

Current Superman and British heartthrob Henry Cavill is quite easily the sexiest, manliest Kal El we’ve had so far (sorry Dean Cain!). He’s just so ruggedly handsome and… furry. He’s definitely a welcome break from the clean cut, smooth and muscular goody-two -shoes we normally get from the DC hero, and Henry is to thank for that, seeing as he fought for his right to go all-natural!

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Mr. Cavill has starred in some great films and television series, long before becoming the Man of Steel on the big screen. With films such as Immortals and The Man From U.N.C.L.E, he’s more than proved his leading man status in Hollywood.

As he prepares for his role in the first Justice League film, Henry took to Instagram to share his strenuous (and shirtless) workout, almost breaking the internet in the process:

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Glad to see he is taking his fitness so seriously!

Fun Facts About Henry Cavill

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  • We may know him as Superman, but according to Twilight author Stephenie Meyer, she always envisioned him as the only actor who could pull off Edward Cullen (No one tell R-Patz!). But by the time production had started he was too old to play 17.
  • For a brief period in 2013, he dated nerd bait Kaley Cuoco (Penny from the Big Bang Theory). The two were papped together non-stop for two weeks before it all ended!
  • Unsurprisingly, Henry is a big fan of rugby and used to be a skilled player. Sadly, he had to give up the sport due to injuries.
  • 2013’s Man of Steel wasn’t his first attempt at wearing the red cape. He came very close to playing the part in the 2006 film Superman Returns, but the part eventually went to Brendan Routh.
  • Henry is really good with his tongue… He speaks fluent English, French, Spanish and Italian (get your minds out of the gutters people!).

And to bring to a close another sexy #ManCrushMonday, here’s a wet Henry to cool you down:

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New Year, New Me… Just Joking!

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Fooled you there for a minute didn’t I!? If I see another ‘New Year, New Me’ post anywhere on this planet I think I will have a breakdown!

I know it’s the second day of FEBRUARY, but it’s been a while since I’ve posted anything and I just wanted to give a little life update before I (hopefully) return for good!

I’m a little late to the party, but I’ve always done things in my own time! So far, 2016 has been off to a great start. I wouldn’t say I have radically changed myself to coincide with any New Year’s resolutions, but I have made a few small changes that are having positive effects.

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One of the biggest things happened last week. I achieved one of my ultimate life goals. As of last Thursday, I am now the proud owner of a FIAT 500! If you don’t understand how big a deal that is to me, refer to my ‘about me’ page. My husband and I are financially tied in for five years, but it’s been a very big milestone for us to buy a car together.

Speaking of my husband, he has a new job working in a shop that has been really good for him. Before he used to work in a busy cafe in London that was very emotionally and physically draining for him. But now he is closer to home and much happier within his environment. As the saying goes: Happy Wife, Happy Life (we need a ‘husband’ alternative for that!).

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Things have been going so well for us at home that we have even decided to try and change up our diet and daily routine by including some more exercise and healthy eating. We did a cabbage soup detox last week, which was simply torturous. I think I’m going to boycott soup until 2017. But it was something that we did together which made it all worthwhile, and we were motivating one another for a change! Normally it’s a struggle for us to work out together or eat right but so far we’ve been really in sync.

Work has been very busy over the last few months (hence the prolonged absence), but I am determined to find time for myself and my hobbies. I’ve really missed writing my blog as well as reading other WordPress gems! The plan is to come back on a more regular basis now though, so fingers crossed for success.

That’s about all that’s been going on in quiet suburbia. Life has been carrying on as usual, mothers taking children to school, couples walking dogs to the park and my husband and I, driving around town in our shiny new car!

 

#ManCrushMonday: Olly Murs

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If like me you tune into The X Factor on a weekly basis, you will hopefully appreciate this week’s Man Crush Monday… Olly Murs!

As much as I loved Dermot O’Leary on a Saturday & Sunday night, I have to say, cheeky chappy Olly Murs is a welcome replacement. His flirtatious banter with Caroline Flack and occasional word vomit have kept me entertained since August, so I think this week he deserves a little attention!

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Since 2009 (yes 2009!), Olly Murs has been gracing us with his presence on radio and television alike. As one of the most successful X Factor runner-ups, his career has gone from strength to strength, including 4 UK number one singles, a few (minor) successes in the US, and now his presenting role on The X Factor has brought him full circle.

Essex boy at heart, one of the things I like about Olly is how genuine and ‘normal’ he seems. I can imagine him having a pint in a pub with the lads, or enjoying a curry takeaway while watching I’m A Celebrity with the missus. I may be wrong, but I like to imagine him as a typical British boy next door. Except when he’s stripping down into a questionable thong on stage of course:

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As well as a great, positive attitude, a  I am extremely jealous of the Troublemakers closet, and would like to spend an hour or so in there with him… Picking out clothes for myself of course! Although for you to really appreciate his dress sense, you will have to look elsewhere because most of the pictures in this post feature very little clothing.

Fun Facts About Olly Murs

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  • Olly has a twin brother, but they are estranged, because Olly missed his wedding because due to The X Factor in 2009.
  • In 2007 he appeared on Deal or No Deal and went on to win a WHOPPING £10! (I’m sure his X Factor money doesn’t even compare!).
  • Despite his very successful and lucrative pop career, Olly continued to live with his parents until 2012 (three years after his run on The X Factor).
  • Before finding fame, Mr. Murs worked in a call centre and was part of a band called Small Town Blaggers.
  • During that time, he auditioned for The X Factor twice, failing on both occasions!

And there you have it, everything you need to know about Olly Murs, along with some skin-flashing images to perk up your Monday! Be careful when looking at these pictures, as they may cause your heart to skip a beat… (See what I did there? :-P)

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Welcome to the Neighbourhood

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I’ve taken a little bit of a break from WordPress over the last couple of weeks. I was very busy with work and honestly wasn’t feeling very inspired.

This week I’ve started following some new blogs, and have just been quietly absorbing this lovely community, regaining my focus and admiring some wonderfully written works.

It’s made me evaluate what I want my blog to be about, and what I want to say. I think I’m going in the right direction, but I just need a little bit more discipline!

One of the things that I’ve enjoyed a lot and I think has been well received has been the Man Crush Monday. So this is something I’m going to continue to do frequently, and hopefully consistently!

Also, I like sharing personal experiences and advice. As one half of a gay couple I am always fascinated when I discover blogs with similar lifestyles and stories. Finding people who can share my aspirations, obstacles and milestones is always fun, and I hope to be more of a voice in that sense.

When I started, I had it in my mind that Pink Suburbia was going to be about my gay life in suburbia, and while it is still an ongoing theme, here I’m able to share my passions for film, television, entertainment, and most importantly, my husband.

With Pink Suburbia I’ve created a little online home for myself, on a gay-friendly street with the most fascinating neighbours. So if you’re reading this, it means I have another chance to welcome you to the neighbourhood! On Wednesdays we wear pink.

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Secret Love Song: A Secret Love Story

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Little Mix released their new album just over two weeks ago, and there is one song that for me personally stands out above the rest.

On the deluxe edition of the album ‘Get Weird’, you will find a stunning little number, tucked away in the tail end of the collection. Secret Love Song, Pt II is a wonderful ballad about, well, a secret love.

On first listen, I picked up on the main themes of the song because of the heartbreaking lyrics:

You and I both have to hide on the outside
Where I can’t be yours and you can’t be mine

Straight away, I felt a connection to the lyrics. It reminded me of the time before I came out. I had been with my boyfriend (now husband) for a few months. We were actually already living together! But still, I hadn’t admitted to a large part of my family that I was gay. At the time I was living far away from my mother & sister (who already knew), and I felt it was important not to rock the boat or let my religious family members know in case they didn’t react well.

It’s quite funny looking back now, because we were actually really good at sneaking around. My family helped me move into my new house, not even realising that I was moving in with my boyfriend! But as amusing as it is now, I remember it was actually really frustrating at times having to keep such a huge secret.

I had met the love of my life and I couldn’t even share it with my loved ones. We would go out, and I would always be looking over my shoulder, worrying someone would recognise me. I hesitantly held his hand in public, but I could never relax.

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Eventually, I came out to everyone very publicly on Facebook. It was a massive relief, not to be afraid of showing affection to the man I loved. Most of my family didn’t react very well, and I lost contact with a lot of them over my relationship, but it was the best thing I’ve ever done. The freedom it gave me was incredible, and even though there was some negativity, I was mostly met with a loving response.

This song reminds me of how far I’ve come and the lengths I’ve gone through to prove that my love is something special. Unfortunately, there are still many people who have to live their lives in secret, afraid of being rejected, or even worse, killed for loving who they love.

I’m posting this song and my story because it really touched my heart, and I wanted anyone else out there who relates to this  in some way to know that who you love shouldn’t have to be a secret, especially because you just can’t help it.

PS: Thank you Little Mix for such a great song and embracing it as an LGBT love anthem. ❤